This is Teddy, creative, I know- the Friendship Carebear, circa 1989. My childhood best friend gave it to me for my 2nd birthday. Teddy and I were inseperatable for years. Teddy traveled in the car, to babysitter's houses, to doctor's appointments, to San Antonio, Florida, New York. When I had my tonsils removed when I was 5, I took another bear to the hospital with me because I didn't want Teddy to get hurt. Teddy even spent 4 years at Baylor with me. He's made a lot of pwiends (my 2 year old word for friends, and a common adjective for Teddy). But as of Thursday, as I started my 23rd year, Teddy has had a new home: my closet. After years of comfort during fears and tears, Teddy will live in my closet. 
As a child, Teddy was my comfort object, as it is referred to in The Giver. After having my reoccuring nightmare about being chased by a gorilla and not having any defense against it, Teddy was there for me to cling to. Teddy has been bathed by tears on multiple occasions, mourning with me the fact that life was changing, and that going home to Arlington would never be the same again, even though our new home in Waco was so different. Teddy made me feel better as I healed after high school boyfriends and losing love. It seemed as if, no matter what I felt, where I was, or what I was going through, Teddy made it ok. He always brought the comfort and routine I craved. That I think we all crave, even the most spontaneous and free-spirited of us, to some extent. Iappreciate knowing what is coming, knowing what to expect, and those plans coming through.
Sometimes, even with Teddy, my life feels anything but consistent, anything but constant. Projects at work. Something as unpredictable and uncontrollable as traffic. My moods or the moods of others. The tiniest of kinks can throw it all off, it sometimes seems. This leaves mundane, routine lovers devistated, trying to repair the machine we've so thoughtfully and intricately constructed. It leaves us craving that consoling custom we crave.
But where did this notion of comfort come from? Sure, comfort leaves us feeling content, but sometimes almost complacent. Secure. Routine. But at what point did I begin to think this was best? That this was where I was supposed to be?
I remember my junior high youth minister often telling us awkward teenagers to "get out of our comfort zones" and not just follow the crowd. Although the motives are now different at 23 years and 3 days, the same concept appears to ring true in my life. Getting out of my comfort zone, be it at work, school or social situations, seems to be key. It seems to be where I've been placed. And I've spent my summer despising it. Wishing I could feel comfortable. Dreaming of times I didn't feel awkward. But as I've thought more about it lately, I realize that the uncomfortable area seems to be where great things and growth happen. When we are not sure, not comfortable, we seem to be stretched a little further than we thought we could be stretched. Pushed slightly harder than we thought we should be pushed. And what do we do? Adapt. Until we are pushed again, that is. It reminds me of running. You run one mile, and your quads throb the next day. But the day after, you drag yourself out of bed and do it again...and it gets easier and easier, less and less painful each time.
Nothing great happens wtihout great risk. Realizing that the best things come from change, from that place outside of our comfortable and complacent box, and striving to let go of that comfort and consistence is what makes life grand. It's what makes us grow.
Goodbye Teddy. Goodbye comfort. Weclome, growth, change, rejuvination.
aww this is so sad! but also good :)
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